Tuesday, August 9, 2011

Commuting, grocery shopping, getting a meal on the table...at times impossible or at least FRUSTRATING tasks here!

So I have been wanting to write about this subject for awhile.  And there have been a few days when Eric has come home and actually let the following words fall out of his mouth (what have YOU done today-as if to imply that I have not done a thing all day), only to get either a loud vocal response from me in complete frustration or simply no answer at all, but rather a cold glare.  Well, I was reading a blog the other day from a lady that lives here and well...it was just perfect as to how I would like to say it.  So, I stole it!  No, I will give her all of the credit and her name is at the bottom of the article!  It is just exactly how it goes here and you can never truly understand it unless you live here for awhile.  But, here it goes...this is how I feel about grocery shopping or getting Reese to school and back from school, or any other commuting that needs to happen here. My writing is in blue.

On Commuting...
One of the first challenges about moving to a new place, of course, is figuring out how to get around. Throw in a three year-old and a belly that’s ever expanding to accommodate the Kid’s imminent little brother, and the simple task of going to the grocery store can feel a bit overwhelming. (I have a four year old and now a one year old that can't walk yet, no baby bump though.)

(The grocery shopping problem, incidentally, is compounded by the fact that I’ve already accumulated at least 5 different destinations depending on the type of everyday item I need: the nearby wet market for common fruits and veggies, as well as live chickens, killed, plucked and beheaded–be-footed, too, upon request–while you wait; the fancy produce stand for more exotic offerings like avocados, fresh basil, grapes, and decent salad lettuce; the ‘local’ supermarket for rice, pasta, milk, juice, oatmeal, sugar, paper towels, and any type of pork product that you can imagine–freshly hacked by the butcher and flung, unwrapped and unmarked, into large bins through which dozens of shoppers at a time can rummage; the ‘expat’ supermarket for sandwich bread, cheese, kosher salt, all-purpose flour, olive oil, coffee, and other imported or ‘luxury’ items; and the smaller, specialty shops that carry exclusively imported goods like Mexican canned green chiles, whole wheat crackers and biscuits, micro-brewed beer and palatable wine, grain-feed beef and free-range chicken, chocolate chips for baking, and the surprisingly hard to find black tea. Some of these places are a 5 to 30 minute walk, some only accessible by metro or taxi, and naturally all of them are in opposite directions from one another with my flat as the central point.) (This pretty much sums up how groceries are done here, not to mention that you have to physically carry them all back to your house by yourself.  Try carrying all of your groceries in your hands at one time from your visit at Meijers!  Not too easy!  But, then throw in your one-year old that can't walk and a whiny 4 year old that is either hungry or thirsty of course! This is how we get the groceries from the taxi to the apartment.  I pay taxi driver, give door card to Reese to get the trolley cart while I hold Cambry and unload bags out of the taxi.  Then taxi driver stares and laughs, under his breath at this crazy foreigner, as he drives off! I then load groceries on to the cart, plop Cambry on to cart and have Reese hold her there while I wheel them up to the apartment!  They think that this is sooo much fun!  I'm usually sweating because it is nearly 100 degrees out!)





But this post is not primarily about food (she says grudgingly as she shifts her focus with difficulty away from contemplations of dinner tonight and remembrances of her first Shanghai shopping debacle, to be recounted later).

This post is about a heroic quest to get the Kid to preschool before 9 am while saving the environment, one trip at a time. In other words, I’ve become a bike commuter.

The preschool (a bilingual institution with a predominantly Chinese enrollment that has somewhat embarrassingly named itself ‘Little Eton’) is located just south of where we live. It’s probably 2 miles (3ish km) from our place. However, more significantly, it’s about 3 massive intersections, 2 one-way streets running in the wrong direction, and a prime-time rush hour commute away. So it takes about:

35 minutes to walk–too far on a daily basis for a easily-distractable three year-old, which can easily stretch into an hour of meandering, or even worse, a stalemate where I am required to carry 30+ pounds of grumpy, squirmy humanity–

OR 15 to 30 minutes in a taxi depending on traffic and lights,

OR a 10 minute walk on one end PLUS a 10 minute subway stint if the train comes on time PLUS another 10 minute walk on the other end, (I considered taking the subway, but now find it to be one of the most difficult by myself with a baby and four year old.  Mostly because it is not stroller or child friendly. I now know why they only have one child here in China.  It is just logistically too hard to get around.  You start at the top of this HUGE amount of steps at least three flights, no down escalator.  So you have to carry the baby, the stroller, the diaper bag, and heaven help you if you have anything else with you, as you walk down these steep, too many to count steps.  Once you made it to the entrance platform you have to put your bags through a bag scanner on a conveyor belt, collect them, and then carry everything through a turn-style entrance while swiping your metro card to get in.  Seriously, this takes some practice and maneuvering.  Reese has to duck under the turn-style before me to get through because she is still free because of her height.  Next, you go do yet another flight of stairs to the subway platform.  Once you have made it there you then have to try and push your way on to the subway and hope to get a big enough spot to stand without feeling as if someone is breathing down your neck.  We relax because we have finally made it on, only to do the reverse of the whole process to get out of the subway station.  I still do not know how handicapped people get around this city.  I have NEVER seen a person in a wheel chair on the subway, or really anyone that is physical disabled.  Either they do not get out much, they take a taxi everywhere, or I do not ride the subway enough because I never see people like this.  Where are the elevators in this city? I guess if there were elevators you would be waiting in line for hours so it wouldn't be worth it anyways right?)

OR a consistent 18 minute ride by bike.

Our obvious winner? The 2-wheeled option, barring heavy rain or stifling humidity.

Conveniently, we bought bikes within our first couple weeks of living in Shanghai. It’s a city perfectly adapted to biking: almost completely flat, large enough for nice, wide driving lanes, spacious enough for big sidewalks with ample places for chaining up your bike in front of almost every shop or restaurant, and a significant portion of the population either too cheap or too poor to shell out the cash required for owning and maintaining a car (and in many cases a driver).

Not so conveniently, it’s also a city of anywhere from 18-23 million people, depending on whether you try to count ‘unregistered’ inhabitants, and in the morning and evening it feels like pretty much every single one of these many million residents is trying to get somewhere–in a hurry.

On the average day, the Kid and I set off on my single-speed, cruiser style bicycle, with the Kid strapped securely into both his helmet and his safety seat (that cost more than the bike itself), with backpack and purse stowed in the front basket, around 8:35 am. We immediately encounter obstacle #1: a left turn from our driveway onto the local two lane street, which is normally quiet but at this time of day is bustling with cars, taxis, buses, motorcycles, other bikes, and pedestrians.

Once safely negotiated, our entry into the morning traffic leads us to obstacle #2: a school zone. We actually pass two of these areas, and they are both teeming with kids and guardians trying to cross the street where there is no crosswalk, cars parking and double parking on the wrong side of the road to drop off, bikes weaving in and out of narrow gaps between starting and stopping vehicles, uniformed guards whose main purpose evidently is to stand around looking official, and always, insistently, the sound of a honking horn. You know, from that singular car or taxi that haunts every street in the city and remains convinced the crowd will miraculously disperse if only forcefully, repeatedly reminded of the inconvenience it is causing the aforementioned honker.

Then we reach the first of three major intersections. And by major, I mean not 3 or 4 way but at LEAST 5 way intersections with multiple lanes of traffic headed each direction. The biggest challenge here is that, if you don’t get a head start, you will never get through the light. If you’re going straight, you’ve got to contend with the oncoming traffic turning left, which inevitably leaps out into the intersection in anticipation of the green (there’s not always an arrow) and proceeds with its turn, each subsequent car shaving the angle just a little tighter than the car before it in order to beat YOU, the rightful occupier of the intersection.

Of course, God help you if you’re the one who needs to turn left, especially on a bike–your only option is to dart ahead of the oncoming traffic and try to time your bid for right of way so that you beat both the oncoming cars and bikes while also avoiding the pedestrians and the vehicles remaining from the previous light. (Fortunately we only have to turn left one time at a major intersection.)

Somehow, however, this loosely controlled chaos seems to work, and the Kid and I continue on to meet our final obstacle: a half mile stretch in a fenced-off bike lane. Now at first glance, a lane exclusively devoted to bikes and scooters sounds pretty blissful after the other challenges, right? But here, you are dealing with a situation where 2 or maybe 3 (very competently operated) bikes can ride abreast, and everyone is going different speeds. Unfortunately, I seem to ride at an awkward pace–faster than the average biker but slower than most motorized scooters or electric bicycles. So while I’m trying to pass the grandpa who is placidly pedaling his grandchild to school and not showing much interest in conforming to a straight trajectory, I’ve got honking, impatient scooters trying to get by me. The result is that a handful of times I’ve had to come to a screeching halt (OK, so I’m not going THAT fast…maybe it’s really just a halt) in order to avoid being cut off and/or run over.

Usually the Kid is happily singing his ABCs from behind me, blissfully unaware of the perils I am navigating. Usually we get to school, without major incident, before 8:50.

And usually, just when I’m unstrapping the Kid from his harness and smugly congratulating myself on my successful trip and adventurous nature, I’ll see some other expat go by. On HER bike. With a kid riding behind her. And ANOTHER kid in front of her. Holding two full shopping bags, and steering with one hand. Who is probably, after taking her kids to school, off to rescue some neglected orphan from his own personal Fagin in order to cook him an organic meal.
Oh well.

Laura T is an American expat from the Pacific Northwest, former high school English teacher, current French Concession resident, mom of two gorgeous kids and a brand new ShanghaiMamas blogger. Yay!

 Perfectly stated don't you think! 

Take that BIG sister!

Lately, Cambry seems to get annoyed by Reese trying to carry her, or hold her, or move her, or touch her.  However, she loves Reese when it is convenient for her!  Smart already at the mere age of one! Amazing how she has it all figured out! Not really, but I think she is just in that stage when she wants to do everything BY HERSELF!  So the other night, Reese was getting on Cambry's nerves and next thing I knew, this is what she did...
And she just sat there!  Not getting up, even giving her a little bounce every now and then!  It wasn't really hurting Reese, actually she was laughing, but she wasn't in the slightest bit of a hurry to get off of Reese's head!  I think that she was thinking that she finally had Reese where she wanted her and was getting her back for all of the times that she has been treated as a doll by Reese!

Oh, and you don't want to cross her...she will give you a sweet smile one second...



And the dirtiest look the next!  This is actually not as dirty as she can get, boy can she pull a dirty look with her eyebrows down!  Sooooo funny!

Tea Party Time!!

So today Reese was really wanting me to play with her, as if I don't play with her EVERYDAY, but today she wanted to do a tea party!  So, I told her I had to put Cambry down for a nap and then had to do a few things and I would then be in her room ready to "tea" party!  I told her to set it up and that I would help as her "friends" (stuffed animals) arrived.  When I arrived in her room she had the whole table set, pillows for us to sit on and some of her friends dressed and ready for the party!  I was actually surprised with how much detail she had thought of in setting this up!  Love how she dressed her animals!  Hee hee!

 She had a total of 10 friends at the party!  Everyone seemed to really enjoy the food and had fun talking to each other!  I laugh at some of the discussions she was having!  Her creative play side is really coming out lately!  At times a little too dramatic, but still cute to see!
Seems that everyone had to have a dress on!  Surprised that she didn't wear one and she didn't make me wear one either!  I love fun/silly play days like these!

Monday, August 8, 2011

Where has the time gone??? Our baby is ONE!!!!

I can not even believe that I am saying that Cambry is one already! (July 21- yes I'm a little slow on this post!)  I thought Reese grew up quickly but I think the following children grow up even FASTER!  We celebrated her birthday by giving her a present a night early because that was the day that we found out we would not be heading back to Michigan this summer and well...Eric said we needed something to be happy about!  So, Cambry got her present from Grandpa and Grandma Yonker a day early! Can you tell that she is excited!



Everyone thought that they needed to assist dad in putting it together and that it would help him get it together more quickly!
SHE LOVED IT!!!! Thanks so much Grandpa and Grandma Y!!!!
And, she had no problem with figuring out what she was supposed to do with it!  She kept walking back and forth down the hallway!  I really can't begin to count how many laps she made through the house!  This should definitely improve her walking skills!

Gotta love the diaper shot!
Oh, then Reese thought she should show her how it is done and got out her stroller too! I can't wait for them to start actually PLAYING together!  Cambry tries but does not yet know how Reese likes to play!
Cambry thought that was pretty funny and just kept laughing at Reese!

The following night we went out to eat at a Brazilian BBQ!  Dad, well actually both dads, you would LOVE THIS!!  They walk around from table to table with all of this different meat/veggies/fruit on these giant skewers and cut/shave you off a piece.  For example, many different types of beef, pork, chicken, chicken wings, ham, fish, shrimp, cow tongue (yes, I literally about puked when I saw it), pineapple, mango, corn on the cob, and many others that I can't remember right now!  Sooooo good!  You leave there so full every time we go!  But, it is a place that Reese and Cambry like too because there are so many different things to eat and try!



My little princess on her big day!  You are just one of the sweetest little honeys!
Some stats so I remember:
*you have three teeth
*weight 23lbs
*you can say "mama", "dada", wave bye-bye, and do the motions for "so big"
*take an 1 1/2 hour nap in morning and a two hour in the afternoon (I'll keep holding on to this for as long as possible)
*you can't quite walk yet on your own but around furniture or holding our hand you are quite good
*you still like a bottle before bed and when you wake up in the morning ;)
*you are such a flirt!  you love any attention that any stranger will give you!  actually you try to get their attention and always have a HUGE smile on your face, however lately you are extremely good at giving dirty looks at us!  Very funny!
*your favorite people are daddy and Reese!  You light up any time they walk into the room!
*you sleep with your polka dot blanket, purple lamb, and your pipe! (yes, that last one needs to stop soon!)
*you are one of the most laid back babies I have seen and do not get upset often!  Many of our friends here wonder if you are just a doll and are not real, oh you are real, we have just been blessed with a very good baby!  Maybe we shouldn't try for a third!  Maybe we should stop when it is good!
*There are so many ways in which you have already blessed our family and we pray that God continues to bless you and watch over you!  We love you so very much little Cambry Faith!







Ha, love the ball popper!  Actually Reese loves it just as much as Cambry does!

Just realized that we did not take any pictures of Cambry eating her cake!  We got it all on video but I have not attempted putting videos on here yet!  My mom, and I think Leesa and some of the kids got to see her eating her cake, boy was she a mess!  She clearly likes cake as much as her daddy and big sister!

Friends and fun times!

 And she's off...she prefers to not be in her floaty, but would rather crawl around the entire shallow area!

 And of course drinking the dirty, disgusting, pee-filled water is a MUST!  What do you do...guess she is just going to have one of the strongest immune systems right?

The last few weeks have been spent with many daily trips to the pool with many friends.  We either take lunch down to the pool and have a picnic, which is Reese's favorite, or just each lunch at home and then head down.  Cambry usually takes a pretty good nap for me during the afternoon at the pool!  I'm so lucky that she will just lay down and fall asleep in her stroller.  I do feel bad because it is usually in the high 90's and she is taking a nap in her stroller under the trees in the shade but still very hot!  Obviously she doesn't mind it too much!  Last week we also went with a bunch friends all right around Reese's age to a huge water park!  That was a lot of fun!  I left Cambry home and Reese and I just had a fun day out with her buddies!  Glad that I didn't take Cambry because I wouldn't have been able to do anything with Reese.  She wasn't afraid to go down any of the slides by herself and really liked it!  (Yes, she is going to love Cedar Point as much as I do!) They had tons of things for the kids to play/climb/crawl across in the water.  They also had a lazy river (one of my favorites, not sure why because it is not so exciting but just relaxing) and a huge wave pool that we took the tubes out on!  Us ladies were getting tossed around trying to hold on to the girls tubes that they were riding on!  The girls were just screaming and laughing with excitement!  We had a great time!  I don't have any pictures of the place yet, but Eric has off this week and we are going to take the girls there so I will try to get some pictures of the place!  Other than that, we have had a BBQ get together with different friends each weekend so that has been keeping us busy!  Don't get me wrong, wish like crazy we were back in Michigan spending this time with our families and friends but we are keeping busy here too! Here are a few pictures of the pool and whatnot.
 Yup, the good 'ole hose is still one of the favorite things to play with!

 That tongue is ALWAYS out!
 Along that tree line is where there are a lot of lounging chairs to sit in at the pool as well as some to Cambry's right and behind her!  We are usually down to the pool on time as most Asians prefer not to get their beautiful white skin tanned!  What, we love getting tan!  I guess good for us right!  Many people, besides us die hard ones that like the sun, don't come out to the pool until 3-4pm!  In know, CRAZY!  But that leaves us with many quiet hours by the pool with only a handful of people!  So lovely!  And then it gets INSANE when we are ready to leave!  I mean the pool gets packed!  So funny!  They will probably live a lot longer than us with more beautiful skin, but ah when it is sunny I want to be at the pool!

 "Aunt Fabi" playing with the girls in the pool. 
 L to R Emma, Reese, Ruthie, Fabi, Elina, Lily, and in the background is Zoe and Olivia!  Yes, there are many, many girls right around Reese's age!  It is such a blessing for sure!  Seems like every time we go to the pool she always has some friends to play with!

 Cambry thought she needed to wear goggles too! I wouldn't be surprised if she would put her head under to look around either!  This girl is a water rat for sure!

Monday, August 1, 2011

A Saturday in Suzhou

 A few weekends back we wanted to get out of the city and explore a nearby town about an hour away called Suzhou.  We had been told by many that it was the "Italy" of China.  This was because of all of it's water ways, bridges, and rivers.  Many ways of transport are by water.  We made the mistake of not getting a map before we left of Suzhou so we spent much of the morning just trying to find anything, but eventually made it to a special garden called, "Lingering Garden."  We discovered how old China was by visiting this city.  Many of its original buildings, houses, some roads, and bridges were kept up to show tourists and locals.  Finally we got to see some real "China" looking buildings.  They were beautiful!
 They had many different little nooks where they had big rock formations that had special meaning of some sort.  We couldn't read everything, A) because it wasn't all in English, B) It would take too long and we had little ones, and C) I'll remind you that it is always at least in the high 90's or more these days. So...no standing around too long for us, unless we literally wanted to melt!  This place was also NOT A STROLLER FRIENDLY PLACE.  But, you live and learn, and we should have known because not many places in China are.

 Thought these boats were cool.
 Not very often do we get a family shot so thought we should!  Cambry is at the age that she NEVER looks.  She is always looking at something, just not the camera!


 Try pushing a stroller up this rock path!  It was all up and down or little paths!  Reese thought it was just awesome, but not too easy on the stroller.

 This is one of the 300 year old Ginko trees!  Eric was pretty amazed by that!

 You can't read this sign in this picture, but it states that this tree is 300 years old.  It is a Ginko!  Amazing!  It was so pretty!


 Everything was just landscaped so beautifully!
 Yes, I freaked out on Eric when I was looking through the camera and even screamed a little at him to be careful!  He still thinks it is funny to get me going!  (Not laughing!)

 They had so many different pictures made out of stone and rock on the ground, very cool!

 Fancy trash cans.  I thought Robin might like these so I took a picture!
 We did kind of cheat and follow a couple around who had a tour guide.  Well, we didn't really follow them, we just kind of moved at the same pace, so we did get to hear quite a bit of history on many of the things in this garden.  Very interesting!

 Reese thought this little area was neat because it led her right down to the water!



 You could see tons of Koi hiding underneath these lily pads.







 As we were walking we could hear this beautiful, almost harp like music, and it was coming from this lady.  I wish I knew what this instrument was called but it sounds just like what you hear in the movies. It was beautiful.  Tons of people gathered to watch her play.  Reese thought for sure it was Mulan at first until I told her sadly it wasn't, but she swore it had to be some sort of princess!  Ha, always princesses on the mind ;)
We wanted to see more but decided to head home after this because we just didn't know our way around this city.  It has 5 million people in it so it is fairly large, so just not worth getting lost.  We will definitely need to go back with a map and explore some more!